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217. Several studies reveal materialistic kids are less happy . . . : Kamenev, Marina, 4 September 2012, Ads give kids the wrong message about life, www.medicalobserver.com.au
Children’s parties make me lose my mind
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226. One poll conducted recently revealed one in ten admitted throwing a party just to impress other parents . . . : Paton, Graeme, ‘Birthday parties are new arena for pushy parents’, The Telegraph, 20 January 2007, www.telegraph.co.uk
227. Nearly two thirds of parents admit to feeling uneasy about what other people will think of their child’s party and make themselves sick with worry . . . : Avantegarde Occasions, Extravagant Children’s Parties Becoming Increasingly Popular!, 27 April 2011, www.avantegarde.com.au
I decide to send my daughter to a public school (sort of)
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234. This probably has something to do with the fact that our government has neglected the state school system . . . : Kirby, Michael, ‘We need look only to Australia’s past to give public education a future’, The Sydney Morning Herald, 4 December 2012, www.smh.com.au
The author would like to thank interviewees Professor Katie Allen, Jodie Benveniste, Clare Byam-Cook, Jane Caro, Katharine Cook, Doctor Justin Coulson, Justine Davies, Carl Honoré, Doctor Lissa Johnson, Emily Kane, Professor Tim Kasser, Sue Palmer, Doctor Gino Pecoraro, Kaye Plowman, Ruth Powell, Marie Rowland, Trudi Penrose-Starr, Kate Sykes, Professor Marika Tiggemann and Laura Wattenberg.
Further Resources
BOOKS
Allen, Katie and Tang, Mimi, Kids’ Food Allergies for Dummies, John Wiley & Sons Australia, Melbourne, 2011
Bonner, Chris and Caro, Jane, What Makes a Good School?, UNSW Press, Sydney, 2012
Byam-Cook, Clare, What to Expect When You’re Breast-feeding . . . And What If You Can’t?, Vermilion, London, 2006
Byam-Cook, Clare, Top Tips for Bottle-feeding, Vermilion, London, 2008
Byam-Cook, Clare, Top Tips for Breast-feeding, Vermilion, London, 2008
Coulson, Justin, What Your Child Needs From You: Creating a Connected Family, ACER Press, Canberra, 2012
Davies, Justine, How to Afford a Baby, HarperCollins, Sydney, 2007
Honoré, Carl, Under Pressure: Rescuing our Children from the Culture of Hyper-parenting, Orion, London, 2008
Kane, Emily, The Gender Trap: Parents and the Pitfalls of Raising Boys and Girls, New York University Press, New York, 2012
Kasser, Tim, The High Price of Materialism, MIT Press, Cambridge, 2003
Palmer, Sue, Toxic Childhood: How the Modern World is Damaging Our Children and What We Can Do About It, Orion, London, 2006
Plowman, Kaye, Everyday Play, The Five Mile Press, Melbourne, 2011
Tait, Alison and Sykes, Kate, Career Mums, Penguin, Sydney, 2012
Wattenberg, Laura, The Baby Name Wizard (Revised 3rd Edition), Harmony Books, New York, 2013
WEBSITES
Australian Breastfeeding Association breastfeeding.asn.au
Australian Medical Association ama.com.au
Australian Psychological Society psychology.org.au
The Baby Name Wizard babynamewizard.com
beyondblue National Depression Initiative beyondblue.org.au
Birthdays Without Pressure cehd.umn.edu/fsos/projects/birthdays
The Black Dog Institute blackdoginstitute.org.au
Career Mums careermums.com.au
Choosing Child Care choosingchildcare.com.au
GoldieBlox goldieblox.com
Happy Families, Inspired Parenting happyfamilies.com.au
Department of Human Services humanservices.gov.au
Immunise Australia immunise.health.gov.au
National Centre for Immunisation Research and Surveillance ncirs.edu.au
The Infants’ Home (including Hope Cottage) theinfantshome.org.au
Karitane karitane.com.au
Let Toys Be Toys – For Girls and Boys lettoysbetoys.org.uk
Lifeline lifeline.org.au
PANDA (Post and Antenatal Depression Association) panda.org.au
Parent Wellbeing parentwellbeing.com
Pink Stinks pinkstinks.org.uk
Playgroup Australia playgroupaustralia.org.au
Pregnancy, Birth and Baby (part of the Department of Health) pregnancybirthbaby.org.au
Pregnancy Loss Australia (formerly the Teddy Love Club) pregnancylossaustralia.org.au
SIDS and Kids sidsandkids.org
Tresillian tresillian.net
HELPLINES
After hours GP Helpline 1800 022 222
Breastfeeding Helpline 1800 686 268
healthdirect Australia 1800 022 222
Lifeline 13 11 14
Pregnancy, Birth and Baby Helpline 1800 882 436
With thanks
To Lee for putting up with my crap, and being the world’s best dad. Not to me, obviously (that would be weird), but to the girls.
To Cella for rocking out with me on a daily basis and always insisting on playing The Smiths or David Bowie in the car. You have no idea how happy that makes me.
To Ivy for healing our family and bringing a whole new level of joy to the house.
To my mum Nedret and dad Nihat for providing me with so much material for my books and articles and for always offering support, babysitting and late-night Turkish food runs.
To my agent Tara Wynne at Curtis Brown for ‘getting’ me and my work (not easily done, I know).
To my publisher Ingrid Ohlsson for jumping onboard with the book, and for all the fun lunches.
To Libby Turner and Jacquie Brown for their help in putting a filter on things (I wasn’t born with one and your work is deeply appreciated).
About Dilvin Yasa
Dilvin Yasa is a journalist, media commentator, kid-wrangler and general zombie/Duran Duran enthusiast. Her articles have appeared in countless publications including The Sydney Morning Herald, Renegade Collective, Cosmopolitan, Good Health, Sunday Style, and . . . well, the kind you buy in shrink-wrapped bags. Dilvin lives in Sydney with her husband and two daughters. Her first (incredibly witty, funny and insightful) book, Things My Daughter Needs to Know, was released in 2012.
Also by Dilvin Yasa
Things My Daughter Needs to Know
Things My Daughter Needs to Know
The perfect book for mums who want to share with their daughters and for daughters who can’t always share with their mums.
By the time Dilvin Yasa left home, she’d already dated a string of bad men, fallen prey to countless fashion faux pas and suffered too many awkward sex talks with her parents. Determined that the next generation should learn from her experiences, she wrote a series of letters for her young daughter to read when she reaches the eve of adulthood – sharing the things that only a mother can teach her daughter.
Things My Daughter Needs to Know is both an accessible parenting book and an edgy self-help guide for young women needing reliable info on picking the right bra, avoiding full-moon parties, tackling the dating game and flying the nest.
Drawing on years of experience as a journalist for women’s magazines and sharing – with admirable honesty – more than a few embarrassing stories from her own coming of age, Dilvin Yasa gives us frank, fearless and very funny advice on the sometimes painful, often joyful and always interesting journey into womanhood.
Some of the people in this book have had their names changed to protect their identities.
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